WHAT MANNER OF HUSBAND ARE YOU?
can your wife describe you? Below are few categories of husband:
Autocratic Husband- He is a self-knowledge, self-involved, unbending,
unyielding husband. Nobody can correct him, nobody can counsel him. To him, he
knows everything. He is very arrogant and stubborn. He has no mentor. He does
not fear, honour or respect anybody. He doesn’t want anybody to advise him and
he can not be influenced by anybody especially his wife, who hardly knows his
plan or what he may do next. He is a difficult man to live with.
Corrosive Husband- He is abusive; hot tempered and a wife beater. He is not in
charge of his temper. He is a no-joke, no-play, no-laughter and no-nonsense man.
He shouts and barks at home. The house is a military camp; his room is a defence
headquarters, while he is the garrison commander, lion of the family and
commander in chief of family forces.
(3). Solo Husband- He stays in
separate room away from his wife. He is a “single” married man. He prefers
sharing his secret with friends; the only time he talks to his wife is when he
needs food and sex.
He is self-centered; his common words are “I”, “me”,
“mine” and “myself”. He is full of self-glorification, self-justification and
(4). Semi-Husbands- They are not real husbands, they are men
under their trouser but lesser than that in their duties at home. They are real
men in bed and on the dining table; but when it gets to paying school fees they
are nothing. It is their wives that pay the house rent, electricity bills, buy
food and provide generally for the family. It is not that he is not working;
it’s just that he is a useless man that will not provide for his own family.
While some are too lazy to work, others that have money spend their money
outside to the detriment of peace in their homes. A semi-husband is a disgrace,
Proverbs 24:27, I Tim 5:8.
(6). Supermarket Husbands- These are the kind
of husbands that are unfaithful to their wives. They are everybody’s husband.
They spend lavishly on their girl friends, woman friends, prostitutes and
concubines outside; while giving little or nothing to their household.
men like this, anything in skirt is good for a bedmate. They pay huge amount of
money on hotel bills. They are shameless to the extent that they visit brothels
for prostitute or park their cars in the bush path to perform their ungodly act
with immoral ladies. Some even go to the extent of impregnating their
house-maids and sleeping with their wives’ younger sisters, Proverbs
(7). Executive Husbands- These are the kind of men that live their
lives in an executive way. They do not allow their wives to have any close
relationship with them. They operate their rooms as if it is the general
manager’s office; no love, no romance and no intimacy.
If their wives
want to enter their rooms, they have to knock and obtain permission before
coming in. They do issue orders to their family members as if to the workers
under them and inform their families about their plans as if addressing a press
conference; where no journalist is allowed to ask any question.
wives can not easily talk to them, in fact; they have to send their children to
them before they can get anything from them.
One thing that is common to
most of them is that most of them are business executives hence, they use their
office experience to the maximum at home expecting everybody at home to follow
suit. They have little or no respect for their wives, if their business is not
going on fine, then the whole family is in trouble. Many of them always want
their wives to be full-time house wives so that they can have full control over
(8). Traditional Husbands- They see their wives as properties. They
believe women are third class citizens, useful only in the kitchen and bedroom.
To them, a woman is just a cook, a tool of pleasure (sex) and baby making
They give no attention to their wives who they see as somebody
that is a little bit above their house-maid. They believe that their younger
ones living with them are to be served by their wives, while they are expected
not to do anything at home.
Most of them are still using the style of
their grand fathers for their marriages. They believe a woman must not enjoy
sex; love must not be shown to them, they must be beaten if they misbehave, if
she fails to give birth to a baby boy then she is a failure. If they give birth
to children who behave poorly they belong to the wife, the one that behave
excellently belong to the father.
(9). Baby Husbands- They are not
under-aged men physically, but they are infant mentally. They know how to build
a house but not how to make a home.
If you want to know baby husbands
look for the following:
• He keeps malice with his wife
rejects food because he is angry
• He beats his wife
• He reports
his wife to friends and family members
• He keeps a separate room from
• He embarrasses his wife publicly
• He calls his wife
goat, animal, fool, etc.
• He loves his mother more than his
• May refuse to give house-keeping allowance because of a little
• Can never be influenced by his wife
• He is a
contentious husband, he nags.
• Will never pray with his wife
Always find it difficult to say “I am sorry”.
• Will never help his wife
with the baby.
• He threatens his wives with polygamy or divorce
He criticizes, condemns and compares his wife with other women
• He does
not love his wife, if he does; he will never say it, or demonstrate it.
He leaves the house without anybody knowing where he has gone to.
gives no room for romance and intimacy. All he wants is sex.
• Gives no
room for foreplay before sex. He is just like a carpenter who has no emotion for
• He retaliates instead of rewarding
• Never does
anything to improve his marriage. He will never read marriage books, attend
seminar or go for counseling.
(10). Kingdom Husbands- They are
extra-ordinary husbands; they are what God want them to be as husband. They know
that their God is to be feared and worshipped, their wives are to be loved and
their children are to be catered for. They are “real men”, men indeed; they are
the SUNSHINE in the life of their wives and children.
– They are man of
integrity: – They mean what they say; and say what they mean
– They do
pray with and for their wives.
– They are faithful, loving and
– They cherish and nourish their wives.
– They have
hostering i.e. they do listen to the suggestion of their wives.
are good communicator.
– Apologize easily, forgive quickly.
lead their homes with wisdom
– They never retaliate, they rather
– They do speak the truth in love.
– They provide for
their family (1 Tim. 5:8)
– They stay in the same room with their
– They “leave” their parent and leave to their wives.
Their wives know how much they are earning.
– They are actively involved
in child bearing, rearing, discipline and parenting.
– They have ultimate
respect for their wives.
– They do support their wives in the
– They are close to their wives, full of honour and they do play
with their wives.
– They are skillful in the bedroom; meeting their wives
Kingdom husbands are not common but God can make you one of
them, turning your home to a place to be.
Kingdom Husbands – Traits of an
Kingdom husbands are common men with uncommon sense. Are
you a great husband? Do you want to be one? Do you want to be a husband your
wife will adore, honor and hero-worship? Then all you just need to do is to
develop the following traits of uncommon husbands:
God Fearing: The first
trait of a great husband is the fear of the Lord. He fears the Lord enough to
obey His words. He fears the God enough to care and provide for his wife. No
husband can be a wonderful husband expects he is God fearing man.
Godly Character: A great husband is of a man with godly character. He is meek,
gentle, caring, loving, forgiving, supportive, wise and cautious. He is not
stingy but honest. He does not attend night clubs, smoke or practice
3. Love: He loves his wife with all his heart and is not
ashamed to let anybody know. He expresses love to his wife at any given
4. Respects and Honors: When you see a man that embarrasses
his wife in the public, he is a total failure as a man of valor. A great husband
respects and honors his wife and gives all glory to God.
Communication: A woman loves it when her husband is talking and listening
passionately to her. A good husband is open to his wife. He speaks the truth is
love and is always positive in his reactions to his wife.
Leader: He is never a boss but is a tender lover. He knows how to make people
follow him without forcing them. He has vision, which he shares with his family.
He influences the family and offers them good examples.
7. Diligent: A
great husband is a worker; he is not lazy. He puts his hands to work and makes
bread available to his family.
8. Romantic: He satisfies his Wife’s
Bedroom Desires. A great husband is romantic. He knows how to make his wife
enjoy him. He is tender, patient and careful with the wife in the bedroom. He
knows that foreplay is a must if a woman must enjoy sex. Hence, he never rush
the wife but brings her up before any sexual act.
9. He gives His Wife
Peace: The wife of a great husband is always sad to see him travel because he is
a man of peace with no space for fighting, bitter arguments, abuse, curse,
shouting, malice, bitterness, resentment, bickering and hatred. A great husband
has no time for all these. He is a source of joy to his darling wife.
He is Committed to Marriage: He never threatens his wife with beating,
separation or divorce but is ready to give his marriage anything it takes to
make it work. His wife is number one in his life after God. His wife is his
thinking partner, friend, prayer partner, bed mate, and
This is not meant to
abuse anybody, but for you to check yourself and try to be a better husband and
father, may God help you in Jesus name.
WHAT MANNER OF HUSBAND ARE
PASTOR BIMBO ODUKOYA