VICTIMS OF CIRCUMSTANCE
By Ajoku Ogechi(follow her on twitter @ogedede)
He wakes with a start from his slumber. The sound of glass breaking, objects falling and crying fills the air. This is a typical night for Musa. Quietly creeping down the stairs, he watches his father turn his mum to a punching bag. His caring mother, who cooks for him, reads him bedtime stories and tends his wounds. Surely, if his perfect mother deserves this, every woman does.
He’s an adult now and is famous for sending his girlfriends to hospital beds. He tells his therapist he’s a victim of circumstance. Is he still a victim of circumstance or has he become a prisoner of his mind?
Amaka has finally gotten a job. She works extra-hard and extra hours but all these don’t impress her boss because she constantly refuses his sexual advances. So when the board of directors ask for a redundancy list, he ensures her name is there.
Now she can’t afford to buy her toiletries. She’s constantly bitter and whines to anyone who cares to listen. She’s surrounded by opportunities but turns a blind eye to them because she believes she’s a victim of circumstance. Is she still a victim of circumstance or has she become a prisoner of her mind?
Summer break is finally here. He rushes home because he can’t wait to tell his mum everything that happened that term (they are very close). He’s shocked to see his mum’s bags packed. She quietly tells him that the marriage isn’t working and she and his father have decided to get a divorce. The next term, his bunkmate introduces him to codeine. He says it’s not a big deal but it’ll help him numb his pain.
Femi is grown and in rehab for the third time because his addiction graduated to the use harder substances like crack cocaine and heroin. If you ask him why, he’ll tell you that he’s a victim of circumstance. Is he a victim of circumstance or has he become a prisoner of his mind?
”Boma, you’ll be spending the weekend with Uncle James and his wife. Your mum and I are going for a convention” her dad said. Her face drops because she knows what happens whenever she stays with Uncle James but she can’t tell anybody that her father’s best friend abuses her sexually.
She’s in the university now and sleeps with anyone who as much as pays her a compliment. She even sleeps with her schoolmate’s fathers who can pay her. When her best friend asks, she says she’s a victim of circumstance. Is she still a victim of circumstance or has she become a prisoner of her mind?
The truth is that every human being goes through stuff. Everyone has some sort of baggage that they may need to carry for the rest of their lives. History is filled with stories of people who conquer their past to make a better future not those who let their past consume them. Playing victim only gets you sympathy not results.
As we start a new week, let’s all make up our minds to have a fresh start. Goodluck!
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” — Maria Robinson
”For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope” — Jeremiah 29 vs 11