An intermission is “a respite or recess” or “the period between the acts of a theatrical or musical performance.”
Understanding who you were was and who you weren’t –
Be aware of your decisions, priorities, likes and dislikes. Go through the memories of hurtful relationships to determine what it was that hurt, irritated, and crushed you. Sometimes there are common threads in our relationships and we need to find it to understand ourselves more.
Coming to terms with your past –
Forgive yourself for times you felt you could’ve done better, or shouldn’t have said something. Let yourself off of the hook when it came to things you did or didn’t do to lose someone or something. Forgive. Accept.
Tuning out negative voices –
Stop listening to people who tell you, “You can’t do that” or “You’re only mediocre. There are so many better than you.” Stop listening to the doubt within yourself, and stop giving the mountains you have to climb so much darn credit. They’re just mountains.
Giving up your idea of what your life should look like –
We’ve all created some crazy life plans that look nothing like us. We think we’re supposed to get 9 to five jobs, have 3 or 4 kids, etc. Many of us are forcing ourselves to live a life that isn’t right for us. Draft one that fits who you are, what you want, and go from there.
Stopping the comparison game –
As humans we compare, but many of us put ourselves down for not achieving as much as our co-workers, our friends, those we went to university with, those we go to church with or attend mosque with and we believe that we fall short. Stop this. Nobody lives the same life or timetable, and nobody has the exact same results.
Letting go of my stubbornness –
Elizabeth Gilbert wrote, “Destiny is a relationship—a play between divine grace and willful self-effort. Half of it you have no control over; half of it is absolutely in your hands, and your actions will show measurable consequence.” Our ability to relax is directly proportionate to our ability to trust life.
Facing anger and anxieties –
If something makes your nervous, face it. If something scares you, learn about it. Anxiety causes our body physical reactions, which end up making us tired and groggy. Nobody can take on the world feeling like they’re carrying around weights. Get rid of it. Figure out the source and then, give it up, let them go. Know yourself so well, that if the anxiety tries to come back (which it will) you know how to be stronger.
Giving up bad people –
They may not be “bad” people, but they may be bad for you. Hold on to those who will lift you up to new levels—those who will tell you the truth, who will help you grow and learn from mistakes and successes. Bad people can be corrosive. You may not even realize it until you are left feeling empty and weak, but once you know it, walk away. Find the good, and stay there.
“Make your life a mission, not an intermission.” ~Arnold H. Glasgow
“Do not go where the path may lead; go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.”
The truth is, it may take years and a lot of energy to sort through feelings of being lost, confused, and lonely but when you can do that, you reach a place where you finally realize who you are and what you deserve.
When we step back, when we grant ourselves time to learn, when we finally take the first steps to change our life’s direction, we possess the power to create our dream world, which transforms our life’s mission.